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They say trust is something that you should never break. But why do people continue to break it? Why do people remain careless? Why does it seem like people do not seem to give as much importance to it as needed?

One common line you’ll hear people breaking someone’s trust say would be, “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to”. Some would blame the circumstances. Some would say they were backed up into the situation. And yes, there will be some who will deny killing the other person’s trust.

In reality, no matter what the background story is, breaking someone’s trust is breaking someone’s trust. No other explanation can excuse that.

How can one break another person’s trust?

Let me count the ways:

1. Lying.

Attrative teenager looking directly into the camera

The truth is, there are no white lies. There are no good lies. Lying is lying, and this is one of the most basic ways to break someone’s trust.

Remember that when someone puts their trust in you, they also expect you to tell them nothing but the truth. It doesn’t matter whether the piece of truth will hurt them. If you really care for someone and see them as important, you’ll know that they deserve the truth no matter what.

Sometimes, it’s just about the delivery. But regardless of the aftereffect, the truth should always prevail.

 

2. Breaking promises.

Boyfriends and girlfriends getting up close and personal

It’s a cliché that has been used one too many times – promises are meant to be broken. But you know what? They really aren’t. It’s simple – if you’re not sure about something, then don’t promise to do it.

You see, when you promise someone something, they are already investing a lot. Their emotions are already prepared for whatever you promised. If you promised to come home early, for example, they have probably managed their time well so that they can get ready at the same time.

No matter how small the promise is, once broken, it leads to a string of expectations that would have a negative impact on you and the relationship you have built or are trying to build.

 

3. Keeping secrets.

Young man telling another woman a secret

Especially if you’re in a serious relationship, keeping secrets is something that will not sit well with the other person in terms of trust. Having a relationship with another person means that you are trusting them with everything that you are. How can you say this if you can’t even trust them with a single secret?

Of course, secrets like a surprise party you’re throwing for another person, or a gift you’ve decided on giving the other person for her birthday would be okay. Those are acceptable and understandable. But if it’s something like constant correspondence with another person your partner does not know about, or maybe you’re spending money on something your spouse wouldn’t agree to, would be a different story altogether.

 

4. Passing judgment.

Teenage girl with a suspicious expression on her face

Yes, the moment you judge your partner or a good friend before even trying to find out their side of the story, you have also broken their trust in some way.

Remember that these relationships are investments. The moment you start putting some time and effort into it, you also expect them to have your back no matter what. Without that assumption, then it would be safe to say that the relationship is not as deep just yet.

But how would you feel if you already consider the relationship to be a deep one, and the other automatically assumed that you were doing something they wouldn’t approve of without any proof?

Let’s say you immediately believed someone else (someone whom your barely know, maybe) told you that your best friend has been selling you out. Wouldn’t you agree that the right thing to do would be to ask your best friend about it before getting mad at her immediately? If you rush into judgment, your best friend’s trust will be broken. You immediately fail your commitment to have your friend’s back no matter what.

The same thing goes for relationships. A lot of relationships are broken because one of the two parties involved would accuse the other of cheating even if there isn’t any had evidence. That, in itself, is a ways of breaking another person’s trust. Trust should be a two-way street. If you distrust the other person for no good reason, then that person’s trust in you will slowly break down, too.

Of course, other more obvious examples here would be cheating or being unfaithful.

You also have to be careful who you give your trust to as much as you should be careful about breaking someone’s trust. If you’re someone who has a lot of trust issues, here are some valuable quotes about trust that are worth thinking about.

These should allow you to dig deeper into the issue and help you contemplate on how you can build and maintain someone’s trust, as well as your own.

 

50 Valuable Quotes about Trust

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Posted by Igor Ovsyannykov

I'm a digital nomad and entrepreneur bouncing around South East Asia. When I'm not working here, I'm out taking photos. Follow me on Instagram: @igorovsyannykov

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