It’s harder these days for most men to tell if a girl is really into them or is just being friendly. It can make it that much harder for them to gather the courage to ask her for her number or ask her out on a date.
Believe it or not though, there are a few simple signs you can look out for that let you know she might be interested in more than just friendship. If you apply a little psychology coupled with intuition, you’ll be able to tell if she’s into you – or just prefers to be friends.
Signs That She’s Into You
If you want to know if a girl likes you, the first thing you need to do is be mindful of her words and, more importantly, her actions.
Some girls tend to shy away from expressing how they feel for fear of scaring guys off. However, almost all girls exhibit telltale body language signs and subtle hints that indicate their attraction.
Being more aware of them allows you to be more likely to see these subtleties. Once you get the hang of these signs, you’ll be better equipped to notice and react upon them as they happen.
1. She looks at you.
This may seem like something simple, but it’s actually a big deal. Nothing screams interest better than good eye contact. This is something many professionals agree is an important positive sign in any relationship.
People tend to look at what they like and avoid what they don’t, so if she isn’t shifting her gaze constantly, odds are she’s into you.
2. She looks for you.
If you are in a big group and you notice that she is constantly looking to see where you are, it’s a good sign that she probably likes you. Even if she is with her group of friends, the fact that her eye is drawn to you—whether consciously or otherwise—could mean she wants to make sure you’re still around and probably wants to spend time with you later.
3. She always replies to your messages.
This isn’t always a guarantee, but more often than not, a girl who likes you will quickly reply to your messages whether on SMS, Facebook Messenger, or other online messaging apps.
The only problem here is if she is withholding her replies so as not to seem too interested. For your part though, don’t be tempted to play these types of mind games: they hardly end well.
4. She touches you.
This can mean even the simplest of touches, like grazing your arm with her hand, or letting your knees touch when you sit next to one another. A lot of girls don’t want to be too touchy-feely in public, so they keep it subtle. But if there is constant physical contact, it’s a good hint that you should ask her out.
5. She seems slightly nervous.
When a girl likes someone, she sometimes gets nervous and fidgety. This can be exhibited in several ways: constantly touching her hair, playing with her hands, or even fidgeting with something on the table while you talk.
According to relationship experts, girls tend to play with things around them when they get nervous. Sometimes it’s even unintentional, which is a sign that she can’t help herself around you.
6. Her body language speaks volumes.
Fidgeting and making eye contact are some of the body language signs to look out for. But there are several others, like her constantly brushing her back, her body leaning towards you when you talk, or her mirroring your gestures and language. All of these are good signs that she is engaged and interested in you.
7. She laughs at your stories and jokes.
Another way to tell if a girl is interested is to see how she responds to your jokes and your stories. A girl who is just being friendly will maybe give you a chuckle or a smile, but that’s usually it.
A girl who likes you, on the other hand, will be completely engaged, laugh out loud, and likely even slap hers or your knee to boot.
8. Her friends act different around you.
Girls always share things with their friends. That’s a fact that you can rely on—so see how her friends act around you.
If her friends always smile in your presence, or constantly suggest you two spend more time together, you can bet that she told them about her interest in you. It’s very likely that they are helping her find ways to bring you two together.
9. She asks a lot of questions.
A girl who is interested in you wants to know more about you, while one who is not interested can still listen to your stories but simply take them at face value. If you notice her asking a lot of questions, then that’s a sure sign that she wants to get to know you better.
10. She remembers things you say.
Everyone is extremely busy these days. We all have a lot on our minds. However, that won’t stop a girl who likes you from remembering the things you’ve shared with her.
If she remembers plenty of your stories, jokes, and more then you know she was carefully listening. Making an effort to remember these things could easily be because she likes you.
11. She talks about personal things.
When girls are interested in someone, they tend to want that person to get to know them beyond the superficial. If she’s interested, she will most likely start talking about more serious things like family, career goals, and even dreams for the future. If she opens up to you, it means she trusts you and would like you to do the same.
12. She repeats any or all of the signs on this list.
The biggest sign that she’s into you is repetition. Now that you know the signs to look out for, if you see them happening constantly, then you should ask her out. She’s already giving you an opening with all the hints and clues. So it’s up to you to take it and ask her out on a proper date!
Making the Next Move
While it’s true that all girls are different, studies show that many of them will generally exhibit the same traits and habits when they are interested in someone. However, don’t take these signs as the only way to tell if a girl really does like you; instead, use them more as potential guidelines of what to look out for.
Just remember to always remain respectful. While she may exhibit the signs, she still has every right to say no for any reason if you do decide to ask her out. This could mean that she likes you, but she’s not quite ready to date. If you really are interested, be willing to follow her lead without taking it personally.
In the end, you also need to gauge your relationship communicate sincerely and openly where appropriate.