There’s never a shortage of things to talk about when hanging out with the boys. From sports to movies, politics, booze, girls, conspiracy theories, etc.
However, the situation usually gets a bit tricky when chilling out with a girl. And that’s especially true if spending time with a love interest, your crush, or any woman that you hold in high esteem.
Note that the choice of a topic can make or break a discussion with a girl. If it’s your maiden date, a wrong topic can ruin your chances of ever securing a second date.
Therefore, it’s important to find out the things that women love to talk about, particularly when hanging out with men. And since people have different tastes, you might do yourself one better by establishing the specific topics that could interest the girl in question.
Here are 25 amazing topic ideas to spark great conversations with a girl you like.
1. Begin By Posing the Classic Date Question – Tell Me More About Yourself
‘Tell me more about yourself’ is a question that features prominently in most dates. The best thing about this question is that the answers can be as diverse as possible.
Of course, the question makes more sense if you’re meeting the girl for the first time.
2. Ask Them How They Like the Place
‘How do you like this place’ is another traditional date question that has never lost its appeal. The main objective of this question is to clue you in on what the girl thinks about your choice of the date venue.
So, you should preferably ask the question if you happen to be the one who proposed the venue.
3. Talk About People Around You
This is an excellent way to gauge a girl’s observational skills. When you seem to be running out of exciting topics to discuss, just ask her to comment on the people around you.
However, don’t dwell too much on other people nearby. The aim is to have something to talk about momentarily as you think up the next interesting topic.
4. Talk About the Meaning of Life
The question about ‘the meaning of life’ is a broad and highly ambiguous one. It’s one of the best topics to bring up while passing quality time with a woman of your interest.
The answers can help you understand the girl’s concept of spirituality and philosophy. Most importantly, you’ll be able to determine whether you’re a perfect match for one another or not.
5. Talk About the Meaning of Love
This is a perfect topic idea when hanging out with a love interest, your crush, or even your partner. Take turns to give your ideas of what an ideal romantic relationship should be.
It’s recommended to do more of the talking if you’re trying to win the girl’s heart. That way, they’ll understand what to expect if and when they finally give in to your advances.
6. Discuss Her Love Life
Few women will be comfortable discussing their past relationships with a man they still consider a stranger. So, ensure you’re already well-acquainted before bringing up this topic.
If she won’t divulge much about her previous love life, just keep the conversation general. You can do that by taking turns to tell relationship stories or ask common relationship questions.
7. Discuss Her Family
There are plenty of family-related questions to keep a conversation going. Ask about her parents’ names, background, and current residence.
Next, ask how many siblings she has and whether she’s the youngest or oldest. You can broaden the scope by asking her about her aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, and pets.
8. Discuss Her Friends
If a girl is comfortable discussing her family with you, then she shouldn’t have any problem discussing her friends too.
A woman’s friends say a lot about her character and personality. It can also clue you in on the kind of person they’re looking for in a partner.
9. Discuss Her Childhood
There’s no better way to evoke nostalgic memories than discussing how your childhood was like.
Take turns to give accounts of your fondest childhood memories and what your childhood dreams were.
10. Ask About Her Special Memories
We all have that one exciting adventure or experience that will remain etched in our memories forever.
Asking a girl to talk about her most memorable moments is an exciting way to keep the conversation rolling.
11. Ask How Her Day Was
Asking a girl the common question ‘how are you?’ brings the conversation right into the present. But asking how her day was will throw the conversation back by several hours.
Of course, this question only makes sense if hanging out with a girl late in the evening.
12. Talk About Her Likes
Discussing a girl’s likes is a basic way of getting to know her better. Her likes say a lot about her hobbies and personality.
So, pay keen attention to her response. When she’s done highlighting her likes, discuss yours too and see if you’re a match for each other.
13. Talk About Her Dislikes
Likes and dislikes often go hand in hand. So, as soon as a girl is done discussing what ticks her fancy, now ask her to mention those things she considers outright turnoffs.
However, avoid dwelling on a girl’s dislikes as that may affect the mood of the date. A subtle mention is enough.
14. Talk About Her Hobbies and Interests
A girl’s likes may not reveal much about her hobbies and interests. But asking direct questions about her hobbies will help you uncover more on how she spends her free time.
15. Discuss Music
I’m yet to meet a woman who doesn’t love music. So, you can’t go wrong bringing up a music-related discussion.
There are tons of themes to discuss here, including her favorite music genre, her music idol, her favorite shower songs, etc.
16. Discuss Movies
Even the busiest career woman in the world occasionally spares some time to catch up on her favorite movies or Netflix series.
Don’t just ask about her favorite movies or television shows. Challenge her to share the lessons she learnt from the film’s lead character.
17. Discuss Fashion
Don’t ask whether she’s fashion-conscious or not. The fact that she’s a woman means she most certainly is.
Instead, steer the discussion in the direction of her most influential fashion styles and try to find out why they think those styles rock. You can also ask what her idea of an ideal wardrobe is.
18. Discuss Art
Whether it’s a painting of the Mona Lisa or a caricature of Donald Trump, bringing up art-related discussions is another unique way to spice up a conversation with a girl.
19. Discuss Books and Literature
The reading culture has grossly deteriorated over the years. Finding an avid reader of hardcover books these days is as easy as looking for a needle in a haystack (pun intended).
However, that doesn’t stop you from bringing up the topic of books while chilling out with a girl.
20. Venture Cautiously Into Politics and Religion
Politics and religion are taboo topics for many girls. But for women who love these topics, there are always plenty of discussion points to go around.
Just ensure you keep the discussions open and less subjective. Don’t go maligning political parties or religious denominations. Instead, have objective discussions; the kind you’d have with pundits.
21. Venture Freely Into Travel and Leisure Topics
While you’ll need to tread carefully while introducing a religious or political topic to a discussion with a woman, the opposite seems to be the case for travel-related topics.
Every woman keeps a detailed list of the places she wishes to visit before kicking the proverbial bucket. Ask her to share that list as well as give reasons she considers those destinations worth visiting. If she’s a well-traveled girl, ask her to share her experience in the various destinations she’s visited before.
22. Use Compliments More Often
Another ingenious way to get a conversation going with a woman after your heart is to keep complimenting them.
Find out something gorgeous about the woman and make a compliment about it. This could range from their smile, eyes, dress, etc. Just ensure the compliments are genuine and not exaggerated.
23. Ask About Her Future Aspirations
If you’re looking for love, you definitely want to share in her future aspirations.
So, pose questions like ‘where do you see yourself in ten years,’ ‘what’s your dream job,’ or ‘which city would you prefer to retire in.’
24. Ask About Her Best Accomplishments
As you try to uncover a woman’s future goals, also ask her to share some of her best accomplishments so far.
It doesn’t matter how big or small those achievements are, shower her with praise her so she can feel even better about herself.
25. Play a Game
If you’ve completely run out of topic ideas to discuss with a woman, perhaps you can try playing a classic date game.
Games like ‘Truth or Dare’ or ‘Would Your Rather’ can get a girl to share intimate details about themselves without even realizing it.
It doesn’t matter how articulate or eloquent a man is. Sometimes our brains just go blank during close encounters with women. You might kick off a discussion on a positive note but regardless of your best efforts, you inadvertently find yourself going off on a tangent.
Fortunately, you can avoid these embarrassments by pre-arming yourself with the above-mentioned discussion topics.
As a parting shot, remember to engage in an interactive conversation as opposed to a Question-and-Answer session.
Also, note that it’s not what you speak about that matters. Rather, it’s how you speak. You can still pick a potentially uncomfortable topic but spin it in a way that sweeps the woman completely off her feet.