Relationships do not come with a manual. Therefore, you’ve got to pull your weight to make it work. If you’re blessed with a charming, loving, and dedicated man, it’s only fair that you reciprocate by being a good girlfriend.
And no, we’re not talking of the overly-submissive woman who doesn’t have a mind of her own. Being a good girlfriend implies playing your role in making the relationship grow without compromising your values, morals, and principles.
The following are the top 20 ways to be that girlfriend.
1. Be confident in your skin
Most women naturally feel uncomfortable in their own skin, and there’s always a tendency to covet an image that you don’t have. However, a lack of self-confidence may cause your man to wonder why they fell in love with you in the first place. So, always strive to radiate self-confidence, even during moments when your esteem and self-image are at their lowest.
2. Don’t try to change him
No man (or woman) was created perfect. You’ll discover a few traits in your man that you dislike. The worst thing you can do is try to change your man. Instead, accept his character flaws as his weaknesses and learn to live with them.
3. Appreciate him with random but genuine compliments
It’s convenient to tell your man that he’s smart in the morning when he’s all dressed up for work. That’s perfectly in order. However, compliments are more impactful when they’re random and genuine.
4. Keep a good mood
Conflicts, arguments, and fights are the stuff that relationships are made of. But having a positive attitude goes a long way in helping to heal the wounds after every argument. Instead of sulking and throwing tantrums throughout the week, consider smiling and focusing on finding solutions to your relationship woes.
5. Have a sense of humor
In most relationships, the sense of humor is almost always a preserve of men. But men also do have their low moments when they need their spirits elevated by a rib-cracking joke. You don’t need to be a professional comedian to deliver hilarious punch lines.
6. Pay attention to his interests
Men love it when their girlfriends take a keen interest in the things they care about. Try to find out how his favorite soccer team is faring. Better yet, watch soccer together. And while you’re at it, spice up the experience by supporting the opponent team.
7. Take care of personal hygiene
Poor personal hygiene is one of the top reasons for most breakups today. There’s no belaboring this point – if you can’t maintain your personal hygiene, how will you maintain the hygiene of the whole house when you finally move in with him?
8. Occasionally go back to the good, old habits
Remember how you used to dress to kill while you were still dating? Or that perfume you used to wear while you were making love? How about your favorite coffee shop or movie theatre? Once in a while, you can wear the same clothing, perfume, or treat your man to a coffee in the coffee shop where you first met. There’s no better way to rekindle the good, old memories.
9. Listen 90% and talk 10% of the time
Women are programmed to listen to compliments and any talk that’s music to their ears. However, most men love women who can just sit back, listen, and nod in approval, even if the subject of discussion is a bit uncomfortable. You don’t need to be the one doing all the talking all the time.
10. Be faithful
Faithfulness goes beyond not sleeping around with other men. It also entails making your man feel more secure in the relationship. It’s fine to receive advances from other men due to your good looks. But you shouldn’t give your man a reason to suspect unfaithfulness.
11. Like his friends
Not all of your man’s friends are as reasonable and charming as he is. Some of those friends are mean, bullying, and intimidating. However, try your best to stay out of conflict with them. Things should never get to a point where your man has to choose between you and his friends.
12. Make his friends like you
Liking your man’s friends isn’t enough; you should also strive to get those friends’ seal of approval. A great place to begin is to find out who your man’s best boyfriends are, then seek out friendships with their girlfriends.
13. Don’t be the clingy girlfriend
There’s a fine line between obsession and genuine affection. Your man will love you more if you genuinely express your love for him, not when your actions and decisions are inspired by a deep sense of insecurity. Calling or texting all the time, especially during working hours, will likely push your man away than it will draw him closer to you.
14. Nurture your personal life
This goes hand in hand with giving your man space. While you’re his girlfriend, you shouldn’t invest 100% of your time in the relationship. Occasionally take some time off to pursue your career goals, attend to your family’s needs, or pursue your hobbies.
15. Feed him well
“The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” So, feeding your man well is one of the best ways to be a good girlfriend. But you don’t need to be in the kitchen 24/7, neither should you waste time going through exotic Mediterranean recipes. Just prepare a standard delicious meal for him as frequently as time permits itself. The gesture is all that counts.
16. Be consistent at all times
Some women deal love depending on the financial conveniences of the moment. You don’t need to love your man more during good times and less when his finances are strained. Consistency is key in every relationship. In fact, your love for him should be more profound during times of adversity.
17. Feed his ego
Men love it when their egos are stroked. If you don’t feed your man’s ego, someone else will be happy to do it for him. And that someone else might be another girl. Before you know it, he feels more at ease with the other girl than he is with you.
18. Let him be in control all the time
It’s the innate nature of men to feel in control in any relationship. So, understand if your man behaves like the dominant partner. Before making any critical decision, seek his opinion first. He may not necessarily weigh in on the matter. But sharing your plans with him is an excellent way of reminding him that he is still in control of the relationship.
19. Pick your battles wisely
So, last night, he agreed to drive you to work. But for some strange reason, he has woken up today with other plans, and he now insists that you should take a cab. He has broken his promise, alright. But is this something to put up a fuss over? The importance of choosing your battles cannot be overstated. If something isn’t worth contesting or arguing over, just let it go for the relationship’s sake.
20. Be a tigress in bed
It doesn’t matter how gentle you are. As soon as you enter the bedroom, drop your gentle self outside the bedroom door and put on the persona of a sensually-seductive, violent tigress who doesn’t mind playing rough.
It’s important to remember that any relationship is a two-way traffic. So, even as you strive to be a good girlfriend, avoid putting too much pressure on yourself. All the top 20 tips we’ve highlighted here should come naturally.